How have Scott Kiloby’s Living Inquiries helped me? They have helped me see through what I once took to be real.
The belief in “not being good enough”, that there is an actual person here who is deficient, is examined and seen through.
I carried the belief of “not being good enough” my whole life. It colored the way I saw the world, how I related to people, my success or failure. Everything was filtered through this belief. No matter what I tried or how hard I tried, in the end, it would be sabotaged by this core belief.
By being facilitated in the Living Inquiries, I have learned how to look at the components of this belief. The thoughts around it, the images around it and the sensations or emotions in my body that seem to confirm it.
To give an example, let’s say that as a child, my father asked me to do some weeding in our garden. He explained that it was important to pull or dig out the whole plant, roots and all.
At first as I started out on this task I followed his instructions precisely, then later on I became a little sloppy. Maybe it was hot working in the sun, or maybe I got tired, but eventually I ended up just pinching off the tops of the weeds and leaving the roots in the ground. I was hot and tired and just wanted to get finished so I could play.
An hour or so later, my father came back to see how I was doing. It wasn’t even that he got angry or anything, but I could see the disappointment in his face and hear it in his voice. I had so wanted to please him, I was crushed. I felt I was not good enough for him. There was an overwhelming feeling of hopelessness in my body.
My Dad was a kind man and he patted me on the shoulder, “You’ll do better next time”, he said, and he walked away.
Throughout my life, experiences like this have seemed to confirm that I am not good enough. It’s as if it is more important to uphold the belief than to see the reality.
The belief that I am that person, the “not good enough” person, became my identity, without it who was I?
In the Living Inquiries, I was guided to look at this belief, to really look at what was actually going on.
There was a thought in the form of words, “I am not good enough.” Was the inadequate self there?
And there were sensations in my body resonating and echoing the truth of this belief.
There was the image of my father’s disappointed face.
But if I looked at each thing separately, a truly miraculous thing happened. I saw only thoughts, only images, only sensations. Nowhere could I find this person, Me, who is not good enough. I finally realized that this person does not exist.
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